Masturbation cup use and the double standard of social concepts
A humorous discussion on the decriminalization of male masturbation: When the masturbator meets social values
1. What is a masturbation cup?
The masturbation cup is a masturbation cup designed for men, designed to provide sensations beyond those of real people and to satisfy sexual desires. It is a reusable or disposable masturbator with a variety of styles and functions, including electric masturbation cups , manual masturbation cups, disposable masturbation cups, etc. The designs and materials of masturbation cups are diverse, including hardness, playing methods, texture, patterns, etc.
The internal structure of the masturbation cup is usually made of silicone or other soft materials to simulate the real sense of wrapping and stimulation. These materials are not only safe and non-toxic, but also provide a realistic experience. Whether you are a first-time user or an experienced player, you can find a style that suits you. From simple manual masturbators to high-tech electric masturbators, each one can bring different levels of fun and excitement.
2. The definition and social perspective of hooking up
The term "hooking up" originally came from the colloquial language among modern urban young people, referring to accidental or agreed sexual intercourse between two people based on sexual needs without any emotional basis. This behavior is usually a one-time act that does not lead to a lasting relationship and often involves a more direct and immediate need rather than a deep emotional connection. With the popularization of dating apps and social platforms, the culture of hooking up has gradually become a common phenomenon in some big cities.
However, even as hooking up becomes more common among certain groups of people, the practice still carries certain social stigmas and controversies. For some, hooking up is a relaxing and liberating act, while for others it may be seen as immoral or irresponsible, especially in discussions about sexual health and relationship issues. Hooking up often challenges traditional notions of marriage and love, and is often associated with changing attitudes toward sex.
In some cultures, hooking up is seen as a symbol of male liberation, expressing their desire for more freedom within gender roles. But at the same time, this also creates double standard pressure on women. Men are often considered to be natural pursuers of sexual behavior in society, while women's sexual behavior is often labeled as moral. Such differentiated attitudes undoubtedly exacerbate society's double standards on sexual behavior.
Hooking up and masturbation: A comparison of the two options
1. Where does the “shame” label for male sex toys come from?
Imagine you walk into a convenience store and pick up a bottle of Coke and a masturbation cup. When checking out, the clerk smiled and said, "Today, two pieces are 20% off!"
Why does this scenario sound so ridiculous?
As a functional product, the masturbation cup seems to need to be "hidden" more than condoms, lubricants, or even the free porn in hotel rooms. This feeling of shame does not come from the object itself, but is deeply rooted in society's prejudice against male sexual needs: "Masturbation is a sign of failure, and having sex is a sign of true manliness."
Men often feel an unspeakable sense of shame when facing sex toys, especially masturbation cups. Why is it that, despite the simple fact that the masturbation cup is designed to provide a safe and private masturbation experience, it is always wrapped in an unnecessary layer of shame and privacy? In contrast, behaviors like hooking up, which may be accompanied by unsafe sex and emotional risks, are seen as a "symbol of successful masculinity" in some social circles.
This article will delve into why masturbation is considered shameful by some men, while hooking up is often mistakenly considered to be a "manly nature". We will reflect on society's prejudice against male sexual behavior, gain new perspectives from actual interviews with male sex toy users, and compare the social values represented by the two.
2. The difference in social views between masturbation and hooking up: Why are people embarrassed to talk about masturbation cups?
Masturbation: A choice for being alone, but considered a “bad choice”
Society seems to believe that male masturbation is a sign of being "unsociable", as if men only choose to use sex toys to satisfy their needs when they cannot find a partner. This has led to many people preferring to have one-night stands or even risk unsafe sex rather than purchasing a masturbation cup.
Traditional gender concepts have long had a clear framework for male sexual behavior, one of which is that "masturbation" is seen as an embarrassing behavior that represents a lack of female partners or unsuccessful emotional relationships. At the same time, hooking up, especially short-term, one-night-stand type sex, is often labeled as "achievement" and even becomes a symbol of male charm and ability in some circles. This denigration of "masturbation" and praise of "hooking up" forms a significant double standard.
So why do men feel ashamed about masturbation and sex toys in certain situations? A big part of the reason is that masturbation is usually performed in private and society has a conservative attitude towards it, which makes many people unwilling to admit or show their needs. If a man chooses to buy a masturbation cup, it means that he must publicly admit that he has "sexual needs", and the exposure of this need seems to be a "weakening" of the traditional male image.
Hooking up: A risky behavior, but considered a "success"
On the other hand, hooking up, even a short-term relationship between strangers, is often given the halo of "conquest" and is even used as a topic of conversation and boasting by certain male groups. Disposable sex toys offer the advantages of convenience and hygiene due to their one-time use design. However, the risks and ethical issues of this behavior are selectively ignored by society.
The essence of double standards: the "publicization" and "privacy" of sexual needs
Society's expectations of men's sexual needs are more inclined to "show" rather than "hide". Hooking up can be seen as an achievement, but masturbation is a form of "awkward self-help." This kind of value is not only part of sex discrimination, but also has a profound impact on men's attitude towards sex toys.
In contrast, the act of hooking up is seen as a "man's adventure" and "accumulation of sexual experience" by some male groups. Through sharing on social media and conversation among friends, one-night stands have become a way to demonstrate confidence and charm, and have even been given a certain social value. In this context, the male society tends to be more tolerant of such behavior, and even uses words such as "casual" and "bold" to praise the courage of those who hook up.
This reflects the deep-rooted difference in society's attitudes towards "public" and "private" sexual behavior: public sexual behavior, such as hooking up, is often seen as a display of personal charm; while private masturbation is seen as an unspeakable private need .
3. Interview transcripts with male sex toy users: A tug-of-war between concealment and freedom?
In order to gain a deeper understanding of men’s attitudes towards masturbation cups, we interviewed several masturbation cup users and explored this issue through their stories.
Acheng, 27 years old, single, IT engineer
Acheng is a young IT engineer. He felt very embarrassed when he bought a masturbation cup for the first time. "The first time I bought tenga, I placed an order online. When the courier came, I specifically chose to sign for it after get off work, and I was afraid that the writing on the package would be too obvious. But after using it, I felt it was very good, stress-relieving and safe, and much less troublesome than having one-night stands." Although he understands that this is a safe and effective way to masturbate. Ah Cheng said: "I know this is normal, but whenever my friends or family talk about it, I feel a little uncomfortable."
Acheng's experience reflects the concealment of men's sexual needs in modern society. He clearly knows that masturbation cups are very effective in satisfying his needs, but society's "gender expectations" prevent him from letting go completely. This sense of shame is prevalent among men, regardless of age.
Aqiang, 35 years old, married, fitness trainer
"In fact, masturbation cups are also very practical for married men, especially when their wives are pregnant or unwell. I mentioned this to my friends before as a joke, and they looked at me as if to say, 'You use this thing, too?'" Aqiang's situation is different from Acheng's. He is a married man and has faced the problem of sexual apathy in his relationship with his wife. When his wife was pregnant, physical discomfort made sexual intercourse difficult, so Aqiang chose to use a masturbation cup to meet his needs. Although he believes this is a responsible and rational choice, he also faces ridicule from some of his male friends: "You actually use this thing? You are so rich, why don't you find a prostitute?"
Aqiang's experience reveals a common phenomenon: even though sex toys can provide safe and risk-free satisfaction, in some social circles, this choice is still seen as a sign of being "not manly enough." This is a product of a gendered culture that closely links sexual behavior with social status, money, and a spirit of adventure.
Awei, 22 years old, college student
Awei is a 22-year-old college student who lives in the dormitory and faces the enthusiasm and curiosity of his classmates. He said that although the use of masturbation cups was not unfamiliar to him and he felt it was a harmless need, he still felt particularly embarrassed to use such products in the dormitory.
Ah Wei confessed: "I use WADDY student discount. I feel more embarrassed to use it in the dormitory than using a masturbation cup, because everyone will tease you for being a 'tool player', but in fact, there are many people who secretly watch porn." This reflects the double standards of male sexual needs in his social environment. In Awei's dormitory, although everyone often exchanges porn resources, and some classmates even joke about "who has watched the most exciting video recently", once the topic of using a masturbation cup is brought up, he will be ridiculed and mocked by a group of people in an unfriendly manner.
Awei's experience reveals modern society's contradictory views on men's sexual needs. On the one hand, watching porn seems to be a generally accepted behavior and does not cause much trouble to others; but on the other hand, once it comes to sex toys, especially products such as masturbators, it suddenly becomes a sign of "not being mature enough" or "not being masculine enough", which makes men feel extra ashamed when using these products.
4.Why are porn movies free in hotels, but masturbators need to be purchased secretly?
Hotel porn: The "invisible privilege" of revealing secrets
Have you ever noticed that many business hotels offer free porn movies? This kind of service is ostensibly intended to help guests relax, but in reality it is a kind of "default legalization" of male sexual needs. Because it doesn't need to be seen , nor does it require individuals to bear the "shame" of purchasing it. If you have ever stayed in a business hotel, you will definitely notice that some high-end hotels provide free porn. This service seems insignificant on the surface because it does not require additional purchase behavior and does not expose the guests' needs. The practice of hotels providing pornographic films is actually a tacit recognition of men's sexual needs, and it does not force guests to make their needs public - you can enjoy yourself in the room without being known to the outside world.
Masturbation cup: "self-exposure" of private needs
In stark contrast, purchasing a masturbation cup is a clear choice that needs to be made in a public space. Masturbator deals and promotions make these products more accessible and appealing. For example, from e-commerce websites to physical stores, customers must be responsible for their own needs. This process forces men to face their own inner struggle: whether they should pay for their needs and make it a public fact. This process of "privacy disclosure" often makes men feel uneasy. In contrast, buying a masturbation cup means proactively acknowledging your sexual needs and taking action to address them. This process of transparency just happens to expose society’s prejudice against sex toys: porn can be hidden behind the screen, but a physical masturbator cannot avoid being linked to your image.
6. Advantages and disadvantages of masturbation cups
5. Which one should be more ashamed of, masturbation cup or one-night stand?
Decriminalizing masturbation: Bravely justify your needs
The answer is of course - no one should be ashamed! Sexual needs are normal, and how to satisfy them should be decided by the individual, rather than being held hostage by social labels.
Why should masturbation be decriminalized?
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Safer : No need to worry about STDs or risk of unwanted pregnancy.
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More environmentally friendly : One less unnecessary trip for hookups means one less carbon emission!
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More worry-free : You don’t have to spend time coaxing your partner, and the key point is that the masturbation cup will not “argue”!
6. Give the masturbator a fair name: Every man deserves the "sexual happiness"
Don’t be surprised if one day in the future, when you walk into a convenience store and see masturbators displayed next to the checkout counter with a promotion saying “Today’s special: Buy a masturbator and get a lubricant for free!”
This is not the decline of society, but the society's understanding and acceptance of individual sexual needs .
Because every man deserves healthy, safe, and pressure-free intimate time without shame or hiding.
Let’s applaud the masturbator! 👏
Recommendations for various brands of masturbation cups: Choose the "tool" that suits you
With the changes in gender concepts and sexual needs, sex toys are becoming more and more accepted by men. For men, masturbation cups have become a convenient and private masturbation option. There are all kinds of different types of masturbators on the market now, whether based on design, texture, technology or unique anime features, everyone can find the one that suits them best. Here, we will introduce several famous masturbation cup brands so that you can have more references when choosing.
1. Tenga—Simple design, excellent sensory experience
Tenga is one of the most popular sex toy brands in the world, especially known for its masturbators. The brand's products have been widely praised for their simple, modern design style, easy-to-use and comfortable interior structure. Tenga's masturbation cups come in many different models, from the standard "Egg" series to the more high-end "Flip" series, all of which can meet the needs of different users.
a. Tenga Egg Series
The biggest feature of this product is its "small and cute appearance", which simulates different internal structures and brings diverse sensory experiences. Each Tenga Egg has a different tactile design inside, whether it is a streamlined wave pattern or a structure with stimulation points, it can bring a unique pleasure. This masturbator is perfect for first-time users due to its affordable price, easy cleaning, and portability.
b. Tenga Flip Series
The Tenga Flip series is designed to provide a more high-end experience. It has a unique flip-top design that allows you to clean it easily. The internal structure is more refined and the material selection is of higher quality, providing a stronger stimulation than the Egg series. This masturbator is priced higher, but it can give you a very satisfactory experience in terms of comfort and durability.
2. Arcwave—Futuristic and technological
Arcwave is a relatively new brand, but it has received widespread attention for its avant-garde technology and high-end design. Arcwave's masturbation cup is especially suitable for men who pursue a high-tech and more refined experience. It uses the most advanced materials and combines a number of modern technologies to bring a more realistic sensory experience.
a. Arcwave Ion
Arcwave Ion is a masturbation cup launched by Arcwave that features "air pulse" technology. This product does not have a traditional internal structure, but uses high-tech pulse technology to stimulate men's sensitive areas, giving you a new sensory experience. It is very suitable for users who pursue innovation and break through tradition, bringing a completely different feeling.
3. Lovense—intelligent fun, full of interactivity
Lovense is a sex toy brand that focuses on smart interaction and is famous for its high-tech masturbation cups. Lovense's products emphasize connection with smart devices. Through mobile phone apps or other devices, you can control your masturbator anytime and anywhere and enjoy intimate interaction with your long-distance partner.
Lovense Max 2
Lovense Max 2 is a smart masturbation cup that can be connected to a mobile phone application. This product can not only provide strong internal vibrations, but also adjust according to your needs for rhythm. Its internal structure adopts adjustable air pressure and vibration functions, so that every user can find the most suitable way of use. Not only that, it can also connect to a remote partner's device to enable virtual interaction between couples, creating a whole new remote sexual experience.
4. Introduction to anime masturbation cups: NPG, TIS, TOYSHEART: using virtual fantasy to meet real needs
The anime masturbation cup is not only a special category in the sex toy market, but is also loved by anime culture enthusiasts. These products usually simulate the appearance and internal structure of anime characters, allowing fans to experience close contact with virtual characters in reality. The following will introduce three well-known brands - NPG, TIS, and TOYSHEART . They occupy an important position in the field of anime masturbation cups, and each has its own unique design and characteristics.
Anime Masturbator
The launch of anime sex toys meets the needs of many men who are interested in anime culture. These masturbation cups simulate the appearance and internal structure of different anime characters, allowing users to have "intimate contact with the characters" in reality. Although the designs of these products tend to be virtual fantasy, many fans love them. Especially in terms of detailed carving and internal structure, these products can restore almost every detail of the character and provide a more immersive experience.
a. NPG (Nihon Packaging Group) - Delicate anime character sculpture and design
NPG , full name Nihon Packaging Group, is a Japanese brand that focuses on producing anime masturbation cups. NPG's products are known for their exquisite design and high degree of simulation. The biggest feature of the NPG masturbation cup is its meticulous carving of anime characters, which can achieve a very high degree of restoration from the character's appearance to its internal structure. These products not only have exquisite appearance, but also often incorporate the unique charm of anime characters, allowing users to enjoy physical pleasure while immersing themselves in the fantasy world of their favorite characters.
b. T-ONE—Bringing anime sex toys to a new level
T-ONE is a joint series of NPG and T-ONE brands. This series combines NPG's exquisite craftsmanship with T-ONE's innovative design to create a series of extremely tempting anime-themed masturbation cups. NPG/T-ONE's products have made great efforts in terms of refinement, material selection and internal structure, integrating the charm of anime characters with real-life experience to the extreme.
cA-ONE—the perfect combination of high-quality materials and exquisite craftsmanship
A-ONE is a brand that pays attention to material quality and craftsmanship details. Its masturbator design focuses on the combination of comfort and realism. A-ONE is characterized by innovation and high-quality materials, and its products have an excellent reputation in the market.
A-ONE's representative work - "Angels and Demons" series
A-ONE's "Angels and Demons" series of masturbators are deeply loved by consumers for their unique internal structure and exquisite appearance design. This product combines the characteristics of anime characters with a comfortable touch and uses advanced internal design technology, making every use bring unparalleled pleasure.
A-ONE's unique feature - replaceable liner technology
A-ONE's masturbation cup has a replaceable liner design, and users can choose different liners according to personal preferences to provide a more diversified experience. This innovative design not only extends the life of the product, but also allows users to adjust the stimulation according to their needs and enjoy a more diverse range of pleasures.
Choose the right aircraft cup to improve the quality of your sex life
From Tenga to Arcwave, to Lovense, there are a wide variety of masturbation cups on the market. Various high-tech, intelligent, and animated designs all attract consumers with different needs. Whether you are looking for a cost-effective masturbation cup or longing for a new smart interactive experience, there is always one that suits you.
Choosing a masturbation cup is not only to satisfy your physical needs, it can also give you a sense of relaxation and comfort on an emotional and psychological level. In the process of consuming sex toys, breaking the shame about sexual needs and re-establishing self-acceptance is a process worth exploring for every man. Judging from today's market trends, the diversification and innovation of masturbation cups is not only a response to men's needs, but also an upgrade to the concept of sexual health.
The masturbation cup is no longer just a masturbation tool, it is a way for modern men to express their sexual needs and opens up new life possibilities.
Decriminalizing masturbation: Bravely justify your needs
The legitimacy of masturbation: Men should have the right to choose
Masturbation is a very normal physiological need. Whether single or married, every man has the right to choose how to satisfy his sexual needs. As a functional tool, the masturbation cup can not only protect men from the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, but also solve many other sexual needs dilemmas. As Acheng said, the original intention of choosing a masturbation cup was not because of the lack of women, but for convenience and safety.
Therefore, masturbation should not be regarded as a shameful behavior , nor should it be linked to the social value of men. We should embrace diverse sexual needs. Whether it is hooking up or using sex toys, the ultimate goal is to satisfy ourselves and ensure health and safety.
Give the masturbation cup a fair name: Every man deserves the "sexual happiness"
One day in the future, when masturbation cups no longer need to be hidden but become part of normal merchandise, and when men no longer feel ashamed of buying sex toys, we will see real progress in gender concepts. Men should not be
