I'm sure everyone has heard this saying:
"A man's orgasm is a flash of fireworks, while a woman's orgasm is a small explosion that never stops. One is fast and gorgeous, while the other is slow and continuous."
"Synchronized orgasm" seems like an urban legend to most people. Sometimes, both parties have an orgasm, but perhaps when the girl is still immersed in it, the boy has already entered the sage moment. Why is it so hard to orgasm in sync? Can "several times a night" really be successful?
In fact, both men and women have sexual response cycles, but the duration is not the same, so it is quite difficult for men and women to orgasm at the same time, hence the "orgasm time difference".
When you want to have sex, your heart will beat fast and your face will blush; when you are ready to have sex, you will feel a reaction; when you are having sex, you will feel very excited; after you are done, you will slowly calm down... These four steps are also called the "sexual response cycle."
The editor simply organizes it into the following four stages:
1. Excitement (the stage when you start to feel something)
Heartbeat and breathing will speed up;
The face, chest, and neck may become red;
The labia and clitoris may swell;
The vagina will become moist;
Nipples become hard
Heartbeat and breathing will speed up;
The face, chest, and neck may become red;
The lower body will become hard
2. Plateau (Stage when the feeling continues to intensify and you are ready for sex)
Heartbeat and breathing continued to accelerate;
The genitals will continue to swell;
The breasts will grow larger;
The vaginal opening becomes hard
Heartbeat and breathing will continue to accelerate;
The penis becomes completely hard and erect;
The buttocks and thigh muscles become tight
3. Orgasm
Muscles contract involuntarily;
The uterus and vaginal opening will contract rhythmically at 0.8 times per second;
The average female orgasm lasts about 13 to 51 seconds;
Most women do not have a reflux period, so they can orgasm multiple times and continuously.
The pelvic floor muscles, prostate, seminal vesicles, and vas deferens will have a series of contraction reactions, which will eventually lead to ejaculation;
The orgasm lasts about 10 to 30 seconds, during which the muscles will contract involuntarily
4. Resolution
Heartbeat and breathing gradually returned to normal;
The swelling in the genital area gradually subsides
The lower body will gradually become soft;
The heartbeat and breathing will still be fast;
Entering the non-responsive period
Is it possible to achieve "synchronized orgasm"?
In adult films or movies, it seems easy for the male and female protagonists to reach orgasm at the same time, which makes us sitting in front of the screen wonder: Am I doing the synchronized orgasm thing wrong?
Men and women have different physical reactions, and the duration of pleasure is also different. If you want to reduce the differences and achieve simultaneous orgasm for men and women, it requires the skills and cooperation of both parties!
In fact, it is not impossible for two people to reach the peak at the same time. It just requires constant exploration and practice to achieve it. Although the process requires great patience, compared to a bland sex life, this way of learning about each other's bodies and then reaching climax together brings people much greater satisfaction and pleasure. Now I will share 2 small tips with you!
1. One side speeds up, the other side slows down
It is usually more difficult for women to orgasm than for men, so in order to achieve synchronized orgasms, both people must know how to speed up or slow down at the right time. If one of the parties is about to reach orgasm, they might reduce the stimulation, change positions, or even take a break, shifting the focus to pleasing the other person's body. When the other person starts to feel it, the two can return to the original level of stimulation and the position that is easier to reach orgasm.
It is recommended to use sex toys during the process, but it should be noted that sex toys are not limited to female-specific massage sticks or vibrators. Some men also choose to use penis rings to delay ejaculation. This erotic energy that slowly builds up from the back and forth interaction is not only the key to quality sex, but also greatly increases the possibility of synchronized orgasms. Couple resonator is a good choice~🔗Web link
2. Increase eye contact and arouse original passion
Many people find it embarrassing to look into each other's eyes during sex, but sex therapist Shannon Chavez actively encourages everyone to do so: "Eye gazing is a highly erotic thing. It can help you synchronize your breathing, stimulate more desire and lead to a more powerful release." Timely and detailed eye contact is an indispensable part of good sex!
3. Nothing to be shy about! Sex should also be full of confidence
In the sweet adventure of sex, many people are actually hesitant: they worry that their bodies are not hot enough, that the other party will not enjoy it, or they feel embarrassed to speak frankly about their sexual preferences... But if you are unwilling to explore your own body and dare not boldly "guide" the other party on how to please you, then sex life will soon become as boring as completing a task.
First of all, we must establish a healthy mindset and understand that those unreasonable sexual taboos are unfounded for women. We can learn about our preferences through self-exploration, spend time with our partner to find the most stimulating and comfortable positions in bed, slowly learn to read each other's every movement and expression, and even use some sex toys to add interest when appropriate.
Next time you're having a romantic night, slow down the pace and add a little foreplay 🔗Web Link Reignite the original tenderness and passion!
