Dear, if you also hate sex or have no interest in sex at all, please remember: there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. This is your body, your feelings, and no one has the right to tell you what to think or do.
When "sexual frigidity" becomes a label
Society is always used to labeling everything, and "sexual frigidity" is one of them. But seriously, why do you have to like sex to be normal? Everyone's needs for intimate relationships are different. Some people yearn for passion, while others pursue simplicity. This is all natural.
Why am I like this?
Many sisters are troubled by the question "Why am I different from others?" But do you really need a reason? Just like some people are born not to like spicy food, and some people are born not to like exercise, having no interest in sex may be your natural tendency.
This feeling may come from a variety of reasons: maybe you are born with a lower desire for sex, maybe you value spiritual connection more, or maybe you simply don't have any special feelings about it. This is all completely normal.
Facing pressure from your partner
What is most troubling is often the pressure from a partner. "Why don't you want it?", "Don't you love me anymore?", "This is only natural!" We have heard these words too many times.
But remember, dear: you are not obligated to go against your own will to satisfy others. Someone who truly loves you should understand and respect your feelings instead of threatening you with guilt.
How to communicate with your partner
If you are in a relationship, open communication is important. You can try to express it like this: "Honey, I want to talk to you. I know sex is important to you, but I am not naturally interested in it. It's not your problem, nor is it that I don't love you, but it's just my natural state. I hope you can understand and respect my feelings."
Find your own way to get along
Every couple can find a way of getting along that suits them. Some couples choose to focus on other forms of intimacy, such as cuddling, holding hands, or massaging. Some will negotiate a frequency that is acceptable to both parties. The key point is that this must be based on sincere communication and mutual respect between both parties.
Don't let society's standards define your happiness
Modern society is filled with various definitions of "normal", but remember: true happiness is defined by you. Just because you don't like sex doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship. The key is to find someone who truly understands and respects you.
To the sisters who feel the same way as you
If you have similar problems, remember: you are not alone. There are many people in this world who feel the same way as you do. Your feelings are real and your choices are valuable. Don't let anyone tell you this isn't right.
Love comes in many forms, and so do intimacy. What matters is not to conform to society’s expectations, but to find your own way to happiness. Loving yourself and accepting your own characteristics is the most important thing.
